Child’s Eye View

D9 today gave us an interesting child’s eye view of our home.  She was explaining to a friend how to get here.  She gave the address and then proceeded to describe our house so they could find it.  We listened as she described the landmarks….a chain basketball hoop, a green minivan and a tan car.  She didn’t mention the color of the house, the chain link fence or the obvious things.  The top of her list was the chain basketball hoop.  You see, the girls have mentioned that we need a new basketball hoop because it wasn’t like they were used to.  When we bought the house we inherited the basketball hoop.  Our two youngest both play basketball so this was a nice addition.  Who would have thought, however, how important that “chain” basketball hoop would become.

 Did the dad driving see the hoop as he cruised the street?  Probably not, but to D9 that was the easiest thing to spot.  All in a child’s eye….maybe we should try it sometime.

Through and Child’s Eye and Update

We were out shoe shopping the other day with D9 and D11.  There was a buy one get one half off sale that was an obvious fit for their new shoe needs.  D11 found hers pretty quick settling on a black pair of vans with aqua on the sides.  The biggest challenge here was learning to lace them with the funky laces on the outside thing that’s so popular with the kids today. After a little work we had it down.

D9 attempts to find hers.  She’s right between a kids and an adult shoe so it isn’t quite and easy.  She’s our fashion queen too so its tough to find something fashionable yet practical at the same time.  Eventually GG started finding shoes in her size and making her try them on.  I began to think that it wasn’t going to go over well and we were going to never find something that would work when low and behold…the shoe that fit and she actually liked.  Except there were these “things” on it….the Skechers name with little decorative balls that hung from the top lace.  She insisted that those would have to come off and we assured her that they could.  Then I questioned why she would need them off.  “Well Mom they are way too noisy when you are playing Head’s Up 7-up!”  Of course, the ultimate reason for changing the dangles on the shoes she would be wearing…where was my head and what was I thinking.  Priorities in a 9 year old’s life….sometimes I wish ours could be as simple.

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UPDATE to yesterday’s stress:  GG and I talked last night as he could tell I was upset and wasn’t telling him everything.  I showed him my post and left him to read.  He feels as if he is not being trusted because of something that was in my past and that is unfair.  I agreed with him but told him that while I can see how foolish it is on a rational level it nonetheless is in my mind and bothering me emotionally.  We talked about it more and I have to say I feel better today.  I’m not as worried, I have more confidence and just getting it all out is helping.  I also journaled a bunch yesterday whenever I could in an attempt to figure out where my fears are.  I think that helped.